01 — trust the body.

I trust the body. We can shackle our minds and even our hearts to the cultural scripts we have been given around sex, but the body is like, “No, thanks!” It shuts down, clamps up, goes limp.

I love that about the body because the body can lead us back to the truth.

02 — good sex is based on deep attunement.

When sex feels stressful instead of pleasurable, we can ask the body, not “What’s wrong with you and why won’t you do what I want?!” but “What happened to you? And what would bring you pleasure?”

03 — good sex is based on the freedom to be ourselves.

Sex therapy is about breaking down our preconceived notions of what sex must be, and gaining the ability to trust our sexual partners with the wild unknown of the present moment.